HEY LADIES...EVER DATED A GIRL

HEY LADIES…HAVE YOU EVER DATED A ‘GIRL’

 

Before y’all get on my case…ever dated a guy who acted more like a ‘girl’ than he acted like a guy.  A ‘girl’ is a man above the age of ‘25’ who is more inclined to act like a female in almost all perspective and far from that may and will never achieve maturity (financial and physically) even though working because he will always act like a little ‘girl’. So here are the ten easiest way of deducing the guy you are dating is indeed a ‘girl.’

1.      Knows all the soap operas on TV or knows them by name and talks about them animatedly, immediately you mention one. The ‘girl’ can even sing along to the opening theme song of the soap.

2.      This had to be a different point…he watches the Wedding Show and the like…and he aint ashamed…girls on your marks…and ran as fast you can…occasionally its okay to watch the Wedding Show if you are a man, but if you do so every Saturday/Sunday then you are a ‘girl’. And there are women married to ‘girls’ as well, ever met the men who constantly brag that their wedding ilikuwa Wedding Show’ na wako bar saa hizo. Dude leave the bragging to your wife…that’s the story for another day but if you are married to a ‘girl’ man up sister.

3.      Has one too many love songs saved in his phone and sings a long not because he is trying to impress but because he is a ‘girl.’

4.      He cries/tears up while watching movies and mostly they are chick flicks…I dated a guy who once when we were watching a movie he had tears in his eyes and I had to pretend I was touched as well… What a ‘girl?’

5.      This guy even though he is working and old enough to have a wife, he asks his mother for money…sorry to say I know of a guy who confessed to sending his younger sister to ask his mother for money so that he could buy a burner…yet he earned more than fifty thousand a month. What????

6.      Sits with his legs crossed all the time…uh-oh…kunani?

7.      Is always late for dates and doesn’t see anything wrong with it coz he’s a ‘girl’ and has never seen a football is his entire life.

8.      He applies lip gloss every other five seconds and note he does not even qualify to be called a metro sexual. He complains every five minutes, his lips are dry, every time you take your lip gloss out, his hand is stretched out waiting for his turn. Alternatively he over applies lip gloss almost to the point you can wipe some of his lips to last an entire week.

9.      He knows more about colors and the different shades than he knows about cars.

10.  The ‘girl’ lacks self confidence and suffers from extremely low self esteem. Ever met a guy who thinks he is not pretty enough, tall enough, massaging a man’s ego is one thing try telling an ‘ugly’ man that he is pretty…’world peace’ sounds much easier. He throws temper tantrums, claims he is the proverbial good guy coz he’s a ‘girl’

 

Ladies, for obvious reasons not to date a ‘girl’ including: -

·         You are always exhausted with all the drama because being a girl is all about drama.

·         You have to be the man in the relationship…someone has to at the end of the day, meaning you have to pick up his bills ALWAYS.

·         Its takes forever for a ‘girl’ to decide also he will always want to be ‘your little princess.’

·         Its emotionally draining…try building someone’s whose self esteem is down and self confidence and at the end of the day they will make you feel as bad as they do.

·         It’s frustrating, because you will try and make a man out of him

·         It will make you become the perennial nag…isn’t why women nag…he is not what you thought he was…much worse…he’s a ‘girl.’

·         An emotionally drained, frustrated woman, and broke from pulling all the ‘girls’ weight makes for a very tired woman

 

Ladies you are better off dating a man…

DEVOTION

Gideon was all that, he was a nice man, a God fearing man, well he did ask so many questions but he found God and was saved, but that’s the thing about Christianity, its everyday that you have to pick up your cross and follow Christ, I mean look at Gideon he did great and God granted him great victories, what happened towards the end was sad, Gideon if I am not mistaken he was a man of valor. He reminds me of myself, when I was in high school and the times when I felt that I was most strong, sadly enough those are the times that I have come close to falling. You know that reminds me of that song, “Be careful if you think you stand You might just be sinking.” Gideon was standing and as Paul would put it, he was running so well, until the devil cut in on him he was doing great. Reading my bible nowadays I keep seeing things and discovering stuff that makes my heart go silent, because the truth is Gideon was a man of valor, I am not sure that I want to write these because it feels like I am badmouthing him or bad handing him after all I am writing. The Israelites asked Gideon to rule over them and he said something really nice and amazing. “The Lord will rule over you.” He should have stopped there but there was an ‘and,’ he asked for a ear ring from their share of the plunder and he made an ephod and placed it in his home town of Ophrah and the Israelittes prostituted themselves by worshipping it and it became a snare to Gideon and his family. I wonder why did Gideon build an ephod, I don’t think it’s an idol or that’s what he had in mind, I checked it out in the Life Application Bible, an Ephod was a linen garment worn by priests over their chests. I agree maybe he had a good motive, going through his mind but it ended up really badly. Regardless Gideon will always be a man of valor, like all Christians he made mistakes, honest ones, and marrying so many wives he got so many sons but one of his sons gotten by his concubine ended up killing all apart from Jotham, his name Abimelech. I guess the big question is or at times I feel this way if someone like Gideon made so many mistakes, they lost their way, and will I be able to stand? The funny thing about polygamy is that men see all their children as their children but these children from different women don’t see themselves as such, neither did Abimelech. Jotham, the son of Gideon that escaped was bitter, after all that his father had done for these people they had rewarded him by killing his sons seventy of them on one stone. I do get why he was bitter he did not take matter in his owns hands, he left it to God and three years later his evil step brother was wounded by a woman and killed by one of his men as he attempted to set fire on a town. God did something amazing that day, He punished the people of Shechem after all by the same man they had allowed to commit evil saying that he was one of them, he killed so many of the them, and he was killed in the end. Its true the wages of sin is death, Gideon enjoyed peace and all of that, the seeds of sin that he had sown did not. I guess that is sin, it’s like leaven or like leprosy it spreads and leavens the whole bread. The bible is right whosoever a man sows that he will also reap, sin will find us out eventually, and God doesn’t punish us, he is not a mean kid on a throne waving a magic ward, no! He is this loving father who is saddened when we die without ever getting to know Him or when our sins find us out. The devil is indeed a Liar. Discovered Gem: It’s not how long you have been a Christian that prevents you from falling…it’s your day to day actions. We are all in danger of losing our faith and falling, there is no time when we can say we are safe and let go of the full armor of God.

DEVOTION

Gideon was all that, he was a nice man, a God fearing man, well he did ask so many questions but he found God and was saved, but that’s the thing about Christianity, its everyday that you have to pick up your cross and follow Christ, I mean look at Gideon he did great and God granted him great victories, what happened towards the end was sad, Gideon if I am not mistaken he was a man of valor. He reminds me of myself, when I was in high school and the times when I felt that I was most strong, sadly enough those are the times that I have come close to falling. You know that reminds me of that song, “Be careful if you think you stand You might just be sinking.” Gideon was standing and as Paul would put it, he was running so well, until the devil cut in on him he was doing great. Reading my bible nowadays I keep seeing things and discovering stuff that makes my heart go silent, because the truth is Gideon was a man of valor, I am not sure that I want to write these because it feels like I am badmouthing him or bad handing him after all I am writing. The Israelites asked Gideon to rule over them and he said something really nice and amazing. “The Lord will rule over you.” He should have stopped there but there was an ‘and,’ he asked for a ear ring from their share of the plunder and he made an ephod and placed it in his home town of Ophrah and the Israelittes prostituted themselves by worshipping it and it became a snare to Gideon and his family. I wonder why did Gideon build an ephod, I don’t think it’s an idol or that’s what he had in mind, I checked it out in the Life Application Bible, an Ephod was a linen garment worn by priests over their chests. I agree maybe he had a good motive, going through his mind but it ended up really badly. Regardless Gideon will always be a man of valor, like all Christians he made mistakes, honest ones, and marrying so many wives he got so many sons but one of his sons gotten by his concubine ended up killing all apart from Jotham, his name Abimelech. I guess the big question is or at times I feel this way if someone like Gideon made so many mistakes, they lost their way, and will I be able to stand? The funny thing about polygamy is that men see all their children as their children but these children from different women don’t see themselves as such, neither did Abimelech. Jotham, the son of Gideon that escaped was bitter, after all that his father had done for these people they had rewarded him by killing his sons seventy of them on one stone. I do get why he was bitter he did not take matter in his owns hands, he left it to God and three years later his evil step brother was wounded by a woman and killed by one of his men as he attempted to set fire on a town. God did something amazing that day, He punished the people of Shechem after all by the same man they had allowed to commit evil saying that he was one of them, he killed so many of the them, and he was killed in the end. Its true the wages of sin is death, Gideon enjoyed peace and all of that, the seeds of sin that he had sown did not. I guess that is sin, it’s like leaven or like leprosy it spreads and leavens the whole bread. The bible is right whosoever a man sows that he will also reap, sin will find us out eventually, and God doesn’t punish us, he is not a mean kid on a throne waving a magic ward, no! He is this loving father who is saddened when we die without ever getting to know Him or when our sins find us out. The devil is indeed a Liar. Discovered Gem: It’s not how long you have been a Christian that prevents you from falling…it’s your day to day actions. We are all in danger of losing our faith and falling, there is no time when we can say we are safe and let go of the full armor of God.

Gideon was all that, he was a nice man, a God fearing man, well he did ask so many questions but he found God and was saved, but that’s the thing about Christianity, its everyday that you have to pick up your cross and follow Christ, I mean look at Gideon he did great and God granted him great victories, what happened towards the end was sad, Gideon if I am not mistaken he was a man of valor. He reminds me of myself, when I was in high school and the times when I felt that I was most strong, sadly enough those are the times that I have come close to falling. You know that reminds me of that song, “Be careful if you think you stand You might just be sinking.” Gideon was standing and as Paul would put it, he was running so well, until the devil cut in on him he was doing great. Reading my bible nowadays I keep seeing things and discovering stuff that makes my heart go silent, because the truth is Gideon was a man of valor, I am not sure that I want to write these because it feels like I am badmouthing him or bad handing him after all I am writing. The Israelites asked Gideon to rule over them and he said something really nice and amazing. “The Lord will rule over you.” He should have stopped there but there was an ‘and,’ he asked for a ear ring from their share of the plunder and he made an ephod and placed it in his home town of Ophrah and the Israelittes prostituted themselves by worshipping it and it became a snare to Gideon and his family. I wonder why did Gideon build an ephod, I don’t think it’s an idol or that’s what he had in mind, I checked it out in the Life Application Bible, an Ephod was a linen garment worn by priests over their chests. I agree maybe he had a good motive, going through his mind but it ended up really badly. Regardless Gideon will always be a man of valor, like all Christians he made mistakes, honest ones, and marrying so many wives he got so many sons but one of his sons gotten by his concubine ended up killing all apart from Jotham, his name Abimelech. I guess the big question is or at times I feel this way if someone like Gideon made so many mistakes, they lost their way, and will I be able to stand? The funny thing about polygamy is that men see all their children as their children but these children from different women don’t see themselves as such, neither did Abimelech. Jotham, the son of Gideon that escaped was bitter, after all that his father had done for these people they had rewarded him by killing his sons seventy of them on one stone. I do get why he was bitter he did not take matter in his owns hands, he left it to God and three years later his evil step brother was wounded by a woman and killed by one of his men as he attempted to set fire on a town. God did something amazing that day, He punished the people of Shechem after all by the same man they had allowed to commit evil saying that he was one of them, he killed so many of the them, and he was killed in the end. Its true the wages of sin is death, Gideon enjoyed peace and all of that, the seeds of sin that he had sown did not. I guess that is sin, it’s like leaven or like leprosy it spreads and leavens the whole bread. The bible is right whosoever a man sows that he will also reap, sin will find us out eventually, and God doesn’t punish us, he is not a mean kid on a throne waving a magic ward, no! He is this loving father who is saddened when we die without ever getting to know Him or when our sins find us out. The devil is indeed a Liar. Discovered Gem: It’s not how long you have been a Christian that prevents you from falling…it’s your day to day actions. We are all in danger of losing our faith and falling, there is no time when we can say we are safe and let go of the full armor of God.

Gideon was all that, he was a nice man, a God fearing man, well he did ask so many questions but he found God and was saved, but that’s the thing about Christianity, its everyday that you have to pick up your cross and follow Christ, I mean look at Gideon he did great and God granted him great victories, what happened towards the end was sad, Gideon if I am not mistaken he was a man of valor. He reminds me of myself, when I was in high school and the times when I felt that I was most strong, sadly enough those are the times that I have come close to falling. You know that reminds me of that song, “Be careful if you think you stand You might just be sinking.” Gideon was standing and as Paul would put it, he was running so well, until the devil cut in on him he was doing great. Reading my bible nowadays I keep seeing things and discovering stuff that makes my heart go silent, because the truth is Gideon was a man of valor, I am not sure that I want to write these because it feels like I am badmouthing him or bad handing him after all I am writing. The Israelites asked Gideon to rule over them and he said something really nice and amazing. “The Lord will rule over you.” He should have stopped there but there was an ‘and,’ he asked for a ear ring from their share of the plunder and he made an ephod and placed it in his home town of Ophrah and the Israelittes prostituted themselves by worshipping it and it became a snare to Gideon and his family. I wonder why did Gideon build an ephod, I don’t think it’s an idol or that’s what he had in mind, I checked it out in the Life Application Bible, an Ephod was a linen garment worn by priests over their chests. I agree maybe he had a good motive, going through his mind but it ended up really badly. Regardless Gideon will always be a man of valor, like all Christians he made mistakes, honest ones, and marrying so many wives he got so many sons but one of his sons gotten by his concubine ended up killing all apart from Jotham, his name Abimelech. I guess the big question is or at times I feel this way if someone like Gideon made so many mistakes, they lost their way, and will I be able to stand? The funny thing about polygamy is that men see all their children as their children but these children from different women don’t see themselves as such, neither did Abimelech. Jotham, the son of Gideon that escaped was bitter, after all that his father had done for these people they had rewarded him by killing his sons seventy of them on one stone. I do get why he was bitter he did not take matter in his owns hands, he left it to God and three years later his evil step brother was wounded by a woman and killed by one of his men as he attempted to set fire on a town. God did something amazing that day, He punished the people of Shechem after all by the same man they had allowed to commit evil saying that he was one of them, he killed so many of the them, and he was killed in the end. Its true the wages of sin is death, Gideon enjoyed peace and all of that, the seeds of sin that he had sown did not. I guess that is sin, it’s like leaven or like leprosy it spreads and leavens the whole bread. The bible is right whosoever a man sows that he will also reap, sin will find us out eventually, and God doesn’t punish us, he is not a mean kid on a throne waving a magic ward, no! He is this loving father who is saddened when we die without ever getting to know Him or when our sins find us out. The devil is indeed a Liar. Discovered Gem: It’s not how long you have been a Christian that prevents you from falling…it’s your day to day actions. We are all in danger of losing our faith and falling, there is no time when we can say we are safe and let go of the full armor of God.

Gideon was all that, he was a nice man, a God fearing man, well he did ask so many questions but he found God and was saved, but that’s the thing about Christianity, its everyday that you have to pick up your cross and follow Christ, I mean look at Gideon he did great and God granted him great victories, what happened towards the end was sad, Gideon if I am not mistaken he was a man of valor. He reminds me of myself, when I was in high school and the times when I felt that I was most strong, sadly enough those are the times that I have come close to falling. You know that reminds me of that song, “Be careful if you think you stand You might just be sinking.” Gideon was standing and as Paul would put it, he was running so well, until the devil cut in on him he was doing great. Reading my bible nowadays I keep seeing things and discovering stuff that makes my heart go silent, because the truth is Gideon was a man of valor, I am not sure that I want to write these because it feels like I am badmouthing him or bad handing him after all I am writing. The Israelites asked Gideon to rule over them and he said something really nice and amazing. “The Lord will rule over you.” He should have stopped there but there was an ‘and,’ he asked for a ear ring from their share of the plunder and he made an ephod and placed it in his home town of Ophrah and the Israelittes prostituted themselves by worshipping it and it became a snare to Gideon and his family. I wonder why did Gideon build an ephod, I don’t think it’s an idol or that’s what he had in mind, I checked it out in the Life Application Bible, an Ephod was a linen garment worn by priests over their chests. I agree maybe he had a good motive, going through his mind but it ended up really badly. Regardless Gideon will always be a man of valor, like all Christians he made mistakes, honest ones, and marrying so many wives he got so many sons but one of his sons gotten by his concubine ended up killing all apart from Jotham, his name Abimelech. I guess the big question is or at times I feel this way if someone like Gideon made so many mistakes, they lost their way, and will I be able to stand? The funny thing about polygamy is that men see all their children as their children but these children from different women don’t see themselves as such, neither did Abimelech. Jotham, the son of Gideon that escaped was bitter, after all that his father had done for these people they had rewarded him by killing his sons seventy of them on one stone. I do get why he was bitter he did not take matter in his owns hands, he left it to God and three years later his evil step brother was wounded by a woman and killed by one of his men as he attempted to set fire on a town. God did something amazing that day, He punished the people of Shechem after all by the same man they had allowed to commit evil saying that he was one of them, he killed so many of the them, and he was killed in the end. Its true the wages of sin is death, Gideon enjoyed peace and all of that, the seeds of sin that he had sown did not. I guess that is sin, it’s like leaven or like leprosy it spreads and leavens the whole bread. The bible is right whosoever a man sows that he will also reap, sin will find us out eventually, and God doesn’t punish us, he is not a mean kid on a throne waving a magic ward, no! He is this loving father who is saddened when we die without ever getting to know Him or when our sins find us out. The devil is indeed a Liar. Discovered Gem: It’s not how long you have been a Christian that prevents you from falling…it’s your day to day actions. We are all in danger of losing our faith and falling, there is no time when we can say we are safe and let go of the full armor of God.

Saddest story ever

I n the days of ‘Live and Let Live,’ that is how this period of time could be described as. The bible does refer to rape, I have read about it three times and no time has the woman ever been blamed for it. That the world today, whenever we speak about rape, there are those that have tried to blame the woman, rape is not rape when a five year old girl is defiled, it is rape when a twenty year old woman is raped as well. The point being no woman wants to be raped. At times as it has been suggested, wearing a short skirt, or even walking naked is not an invitation to rape. Rape is not sex. Right now men are being raped in the Congo, small boys are being defiled world over, rape has nothing to do with dressing at all, but it kills something inside of you. Reminding us that there is something more to sex that goes beyond the physical. Dinah, Jacob’s daughter was raped as a result her brothers ended up killing the men of Shechem. Tamar was rape by her half brother even though it was her father who had sent her to help Amnon out while he pretended to be sick. After it raped her the Bible says that Tamar lived in her brother Absalom house a desolate woman. It also ended up with Absalom killing Amnon for what he had done to Tamar. The rape destroyed Tamar’s life completely. Now in this particular story, the Levite and his concubine were making their way back to the Hill country of Ephraim, they did not want to spend the night in Jebus after all they were not their brothers, they made haste to reach Gibeah, and they stayed at the city square without anyone offering them help or a place to stay. That reminds me of Christians today who would rather work in Christian organizations because they are hoping that they will feel safe and get a false sense of security, it is in such places that our image of God is distorted because you often realize that they are not serving God and have lost their way so bad. The sin in these organizations is often comparable to none, leaving you feeling disappointed and doubting God. When an old man took them in, some of the men of the town came demanding to have sex with his guests, the host offered his daughters or the concubine, but only the concubine ended outside, she was raped throughout the night that she died. I can’t help but be saddened by what happened to this poor woman. At times as a woman I think its better to die, than be raped, to be raped and killed its even worse. The story did get to the rest of the Israelites, after the Levite cut her up, a piece for each tribe, all Israel they were shocked at such an awful thing happening in Israel and they asked the Benjamites to give them men that had done such a bad thing and just like Africa today they chose to protect them. Isn’t that Africa we would rather protect the men that are busy looting the men and women at the top because they are from the same ‘tribe’ as we are. ‘Ni watu wetu.’The same men are living of money that could have prevented your son and daughter from dying from Malaria, or giving them a good education, or giving them good medical facilities. I mean how many times do women in Sub-Saharan Africa have to die because the hospital closest to them is 500km kilometers away and so they die giving birth, because of our people at the top. This woman was raped, the people in of Benjamin and Gibeah could have cared less, who was she anyway? It didn’t matter that the crime had taken place in their own town. They were women in Benjamin why didn’t they speak out against this crime, the resorted to fight against the Israelites. That’s the world today; imagine a leader of one country authorizing the ruthless murder of women and children in another country. Like the blood diamonds imagine Charles Taylor of Liberia backing the war in Sierra Leone. What happened a couple of years later, Liberia went into civil strife as well. Imagine all the countries that import war into the Congo because of the resources it has, isn’t that sad. Imagine all the women in their thousands being raped and infected with HIV/Aids in the DRC Congo, and now the men. Can we really afford to remain silent? Does their pain seem like a mirage to us, or do we have to wait until by the virtue of our silence, it happens to us that the pain will become real. People ask about what America could have done to stop the genocide, I also ask where was the African Union. Close to three months women, men and children were killed in their hundreds of thousands, there was France claimed to be offering weapons to the Militia at this point. The results of their silence and their resolve to protect the wicked men resulted in the destruction of an entire town, only 600 men were left, including the women and the children were put to the sword. That’s why Lord I believe that we should speak against evil, something in our hearts should be moved, the violence metted against innocent people should make our hearts grow cold in disbelief and shock. When crime takes place, when a bride loses her groom on the night before their wedding questions should be asked. Some things should be allowed in a Nation that claims to be 80% Christian. There should be tears in our eyes at the mention of such awful things. Of late there has been cases of rape that should have ripped our hearts out, the young woman who was raped in India, she died after fighting for her life for two weeks. Such violence she endure that I had to ask myself, the people that did that to her are they humans, do they have mothers, sisters and daughters, or the case in America where teenagers are joking about a girl they may have raped. Or even closer home one child who was raped and murdered in Mombasa this last week. The little girl was so innocent to have had to go through that. So what are the lessons from all of the above? • Rape destroys lives, Tamar had a whole life of her, the young woman from India was studying to be a doctor, and Absalom changed and killed the man who did that to his sister, Dinar’s brothers killed a whole town as a result. • God HATES rape and rapists, the men who gang raped the woman in the Levite’s story, they got a whole tribe nearly wiped out. • It creates hatred and anger. • No woman, man or child deserves to be raped ever… • Any persons who relates rape and clothing should be arrested because they have missed the point. Imagine all the persons with disabilities, elderly women that have been raped because they were defenseless and these crimes were carried out by persons just because they could. And that is saddest story ever, it ended up in the death of an entire tribe with only 600 people left to tell the story of a wicked crime that they should never have kept quiet about, such that they ended up paying the consequences.